Salt in the wound. Displays in every store. Commercials on every channel. Chocolates, cards, restaurant reservations, gifts, diamond engagement rings. This must surely be what normal looks like. Right? Why am I something less than normal?
Everyone loves to be put on a pedestal by someone special. A large part of a relationship is how someone makes us feel about ourselves. When that someone has left our lives, or when our current relationship is less than perfect, Valentine’s Day reminds us with all the force of Madison Avenue that we are alone.
Valentine’s Day will be difficult for some of us. There is no way to sugar coat it. I want you to remind yourself that YOU are someone special. YOU can put yourself up on that pedestal. YOU can be the one that makes YOU feel good about YOURSELF.
This is what YOU deserve.
Carrie
hi Carrie, firstly I would like to thank you for all your posts, I love reading them and think the work you do to help people is amazing.
This is something I’m trying to learn at the moment. I find it really difficult and don’t quite understand how to do it! I will though I am a determined person and know I will do it.
Take care.
From the perspective of a divorced person, I needed to hear that I am complete even though my wife and I are no longer together. I still have the kids and their love propels me to continue to fight the undertones of depression. This year I am better prepared for the emotional onslaught of valentines day. I still may fall and get depressive about losing my wife and not being in a current relationship but the intensity and duration of that depression will be less than it was in other years past.
Thank you for sharing Roland. Yes, I think the pain never goes away. We just learn how to adjust.