If you took the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you would measure up? If you took the weaknesses of others and measured them against your strengths, how valid do you think your problems would be?
One of the most common and self-destructive behaviors you can engage in is to compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives.
You compare jobs, homes, cars, money, marriages, families, relationships, intelligence, bodies, physical features, personalities and so on.
Even when we compare ourselves to others who are worse off than ourselves, it invalidates our feelings and only intensifies our guilt. This is especially true when we observe the happiness we are missing in the lives of those we perceive to be less well off.
You’ll never win if you compare. It is a sure-fire recipe for decreasing your confidence, drive and dignity while increasing your unhappiness.
Carrie
Thank you, Carrie. Your words are both encouraging and comforting at the same time.
Hi there. My sister has two small children and she works very hard to keep them happy. I am unemployed and single. I always compare myself to her and try to make myself feel better because I have more time on my hands.. I should be happier. Now with this article I have a start to validation of my problems and sad feelings.
Yes, Heidi. You matter too!!!