He offered her the world, she said she had her own.

If you feel you need a relationship to fill a void in your life, you will always be looking for something you can never find. If you’re not happy being single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

If you’re constantly searching for a relationship to fill a void, especially loneliness, you will find yourself with the first person that comes along that is interested in you. Your attitude toward love and relationships is rooted in fear and desperation. Be suspicious of someone who offers you the world.

The only way to true fulfillment is to wait for what we deserve by being happy with ourselves BEFORE someone comes along. When you start seeing yourself as complete, getting into a relationship becomes something that is additional and will make you a richer person, instead of a prerequisite to making you whole. Dignity and self-respect are imperative in helping us to commit to only those who deserve us.

If you see a pattern of jumping from bad relationship to bad relationship, and never wanting to be alone, therapy helps you understand what you’re lacking in your own life.

Today is a good day to begin the journey.

Carrie

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(817) 946-1620 | carrie@carrienet.com | Licensed Online Therapy and Counseling

7 Responses to “He offered her the world, she said she had her own.”

  1. Simon Hussey,

    So true! As a long term anxiety and depression sufferer these words resonate so rationally. Coming off a heart breaking relationship so your words of positive affirmation are a gift Carrie. Thank you for your diligence and sensitivity in guiding self assessment to those who need it. Best wishes. Simon 🙂

  2. mark pchler,

    So very true my lady!!!!

  3. orbiting,

    Thank you for writing this. I don’t think that’s what I’m doing, but how can I be sure? I want to be in a relationship because I want to love someone. I don’t think it’s because of a void, but then I don’t totally know… my thoughts can be sneaky with me sometimes.

    • Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC,

      Hi,

      Its really hard to say without knowing your whole story. However, being happy with yourself first is key. Then when we get involved with others, we have a secure sense of who we are, what we want and what we will tolerate from people.

  4. Harold,

    Hi Carrie!
    Thank you for sharing your insights. You are a very wise woman and you’ve made such a difference in my life. I can never adequately thank you for all you’ve done for me