Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea, until he has something to forgive” ~ C.S. Lewis

How do you forgive someone when every fiber of your being resists? How do you forgive yourself when you can’t even look at yourself in the mirror?

There is a misconception that if we forgive someone, it either lets the person off the hook, or is somehow an indication that what happened was okay.

But that is not true.

Forgiveness simple says that I have learned from this and this doesn’t have the power to affect my life anymore.

Tell me your story.

Carrie

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(817) 946-1620 | carrie@carrienet.com | Licensed Online Therapy and Counseling

4 Responses to “Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea, until he has something to forgive” ~ C.S. Lewis”

  1. Becky,

    I worry about this all the time, some days I feel I can forgive my husband as he was so ill at the time and not the man I married, I felt I barely recognised the man I was living with at all. There is a part of me that worries forgiving him will show I condone his actions and I certainly don’t. I am hoping with time and more wonderful memories that we keep building, that they will bury the painful ones and they will be just something that happened in the past when he was desperately unwell. Reading what you have written helps so thank you x

    • Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC,

      I’m happy to hear it helps =) Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. It is often more about freeing yourself. I’m glad you’re building new wonderful memories and I hope you can communicate with him openly and honestly enough to rebuild your trust and begin to focus on the present and the future.

    • Melle Martinez,

      A person who doesn’t want to forgive is vengeful…..