Do you say “yes” because you fear being disliked? Have you ever stayed in a relationship you don’t want to be in because you fear being alone? Have you ever stayed at job you hated because you just couldn’t imagine starting over? Do you massively procrastinate? Have you ever committed to something, only to end up deeply questioning your motives and wavering on your decision?
If you’ve ever experienced situations similar to these, you’ve made fear based decisions. Given time, we can justify most anything. No matter the cost, as long as it keeps us from having to face that which we fear.
So how do you learn to make decisions predominantly based on confidence and not fear?
Therapy teaches you how to deal with the range of human emotions we all experience. Many people, rather than being proactive and taking the initiative, spend time hoping that their relationship will get better, expecting their boss will suddenly start being appreciative, or waiting for a sign that their course of action is the right one.
It’s not that happy, successful, confident people don’t feel fear. They do. We all have fears that hold us back. The difference is that confident people learn that risk is a necessary part of happiness and success.
They learn to push through the discomfort. They overcome fears by accepting that they will always be afraid of things. They learn to use that fear as a stepping-stone to get to where they want to go.
If you sit around waiting on your dreams, they will remain dreams. Taking action turns your dreams into reality.
What would you do if fear weren’t stopping you?
Let me help you. I dare you.
Carrie
Yes…sometimes I do. Right now I working at reducing my need for approval & acceptance from others. Not doing too bad either.