WHAT are you fighting for? Control? Acknowledgement? Appreciation? Respect? Understanding? The need to be right? Happiness? Time? Fidelity? Independence?
WHY are you fighting? There’s an old saying ‘you may have won the battle, but you haven’t won the war’. You may win the argument while simultaneously and unwittingly damaging the relationship. Therefore, you really lose overall. And in this continual battle, there is far more energy lost than gained.
We always hear that love is worth fighting for. But love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice. Love is a perpetual give and take. So while love is worth fighting for, there are instances when fighting against the expiration date is only prolonging the inevitable.
Sometimes feelings fade. Sometimes they fade without explanation and sometimes they fade from sheer exhaustion. Regardless of how many times you attempt to revive the feelings; the love is dreadfully dead.
Please remember that you deserve to be happy. No one person has the power to decide your happiness. Only you control your happiness. When do you stop fighting for the one you love?
Carrie
