Boundaries

31 Dec

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, boundaries, disrespect, relationships, therapy, Comments Off

Disrespect…

I would rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect. Do you struggle to listen to your heart and willfully ignore your gut feelings that reveal someone’s true behaviors? Do you stay in friendships or relationships with people who have disrespected you by lying, cheating, or using you? … Continue reading »

30 Jun

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, Comments Off

I don’t create boundaries to offend you.

When I set a boundary, it does not mean I don’t love you or care about you. Me, setting a boundary, is not a punishment, judgement or betrayal. I simply create boundaries to honor and protect me. Here’s the thing… when I set a boundary, I will inevitably offend, hurt, disappoint, shock or anger someone. … Continue reading »

01 Dec

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, 1 Comment

How do we help those who are unwilling to help themselves?

In our efforts to help others, do we actually prevent them from helping themselves? At what point does our love and desire to help those we love actually backfire? When you: Find yourself ignoring unacceptable behavior. Find yourself resenting the responsibilities you take on. Consistently put your own needs and desires aside in order to … Continue reading »

06 Aug

By Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC, relationships, Comments Off

I matter, too.

Do you ever feel selfish if you do something that makes you happy? Do you ever feel guilty if taking care of yourself means putting someone else out? Does sleeping in make you feel irresponsible? Does tending to your own needs make you apologetic to others? Do you believe that you are lazy and unproductive … Continue reading »