How do we help those who are unwilling to help themselves?

In our efforts to help others, do we actually prevent them from helping themselves?

At what point does our love and desire to help those we love actually backfire?

When you:

1. Find yourself ignoring unacceptable behavior.
2. Find yourself resenting the responsibilities you take on.
3. Consistently put your own needs and desires aside in order to help someone else.
4. Feel fearful that not doing something will cause a blowup, make the person leave you, or even result in violence.
5. Lie to cover for someone else’s mistakes.
6. Consistently assign blame for problems to other people rather than the one who is really responsible.
7. Continue to offer help when it is never appreciated or acknowledged.

We can be make to feel overlooked, ignored or that we don’t count. Sometimes you might think that you are doing so much for someone, and still at the end of the day you feel rather empty and used. The boundaries and limits you set should send the message that you need and deserve to be respected. If this sounds foreign to you, therapy can help.

Carrie

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