Sometimes, something in our lives feels “off”. Maybe you dread going home at the end of the day. Maybe you fear going to work. You’re irritable all the time and not enjoying much of anything anymore. Perhaps you realize you’re wasting your time doing all kinds of things you don’t want to be doing. Or maybe you find yourself just trying to make it through the day, only to wake up and have to do it all over again.
These kinds of revelations often conjure up the questions, “Is this all there is?” “Is this what I want to be doing with my life?” “What’s the point of all of this?” “How much more of this can I possibly take?” and “How have I lost me?”
You’ve stopped living.
It’s easy to believe that everything “wrong” in life is because of someone or something else. My boss is a jerk. People take advantage of my kind nature. If she would just do what I ask, it would be fine…etc.
But thinking these thoughts gives away all your control and ability to change your situation. Rather than focusing on the external people and events in your life, it’s time to move to a better understanding of yourself.
Whether you are fed up with what you are doing currently or you want to change something specific about yourself, you can make a decision to change now so that you can enjoy a better, more rewarding life.
But it’s crucial to stop and think about what you want to be doing and decide if you TRULY want change. If changing were easy, you would have done it already. You first have to change your mindset from “I’ve always done it this way” to “I’m willing to try something different.”
Changing involves taking action instead of continuing to pile up dreams without doing anything more about them. So you have to decide if you sincerely want it. It’s ok to be scared and comfortable and it’s ok to be unsure. But YOU have to be willing to make the step regardless.
If you struggle with this or if you don’t know where to begin, therapy can get you started on the path to change. Life is hard. And sometimes, we all need a little help to make changes. The most powerful catalyst to change is this: Decide to do it. As you start doing more of what matters and less of what doesn’t, you’re making positive life changes.
I’m here when you’re ready. Let me be a part of your change.
Your article was interesting but I feel that you left out the person who suffers from depression. I’m in my late 50’s and due to complications from 3 cervical fusions (#4 is on the 30th of March) am being forced from my job of almost 10 yrs and onto long term disability.
I have lived with depression for over 40 yrs due to the failure of the medical field to correctly diagnosis and treat the underlying cause of the way I have lived my life.