Do Bad Things Happen To Punish Us?

“Doors are opening. The wait wasn’t punishment. It was preparation.” Why do we believe that bad things happen to us to punish us? Many of us create coping mechanisms when life feels scary, out of control, painful or overwhelming. We don’t like the uncertainty or murkiness of the unknown and our brains crave ANSWERS and … Continue reading »
Do Bad Things Happen To Punish Us?

Closure Is Overated

Closure is overrated. There are some things that happened where we just don’t get “closure”. Work on accepting what they did or what happened and heal yourself. We don’t need permission to move on. ❤️ It’s just not worth the weight we give it.
Closure Is Overated

WORLD MENTAL HEALTH DAY 2022

One in eight people around the globe live with mental health conditions. The COVID-19 pandemic caused a 25% increase in the prevalence of anxiety and depression worldwide. Depression is a war. You wake up every day and go to battle. Depression clouds your judgment. Depression tells you that you are worthless and that no one … Continue reading »
WORLD MENTAL HEALTH DAY 2022

Practice the F Word

Advice from a therapist… Practice the F word. Forgiveness. Forgive yourself for not believing them the 1st, 2nd, or 20th time they showed you who they really were. Forgive yourself for the times you saw the red flags as a challenge, rather than a warning sign. And forgive yourself for not knowing what you needed … Continue reading »
Practice the F Word

Trauma

Trauma is awful no matter the cause. I work with so many people who learned to minimize the impact of traumatic life events. Many times, people push down the overwhelming feelings associated with the trauma, so they can cope with what happened. One key reason… it seems easier and safer to do so. But people … Continue reading »
Trauma

I Can’t Fix Everything

I used to think I could fix anything in my life if I just tried a little harder or gave it more time. But, some things aren’t meant to be fixed. Sometimes, all you can do is make peace with it, and move forward, knowing you did the best you could. ❤️‍🩹
I Can’t Fix Everything

Don’t Wait For Me

Don’t wait for me. I’m not turning around from the direction I’m heading. Why is it so hard to look back at the past? ❤️‍🩹 It’s incredibly painful. ❤️‍🩹 It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting. ❤️‍🩹 It initially causes more stress and anxiety. ❤️‍🩹 It’s easier to avoid and bury what’s happened. ❤️‍🩹 The memories cause … Continue reading »
Don’t Wait For Me

It’s OK to Grieve

I have learned to accept closed doors and bad vibes. It’s ok to grieve when a door closes. It’s ok to grieve when someone else… or life… closed, or even slammed it shut for you. It’s ok to grieve even if you closed the door yourself. It’s ok to grieve what you thought you wanted. … Continue reading »
It’s OK to Grieve

Gaslighting

When someone says to you: 🚫 “You’re too sensitive.” 🚫 “You’re being dramatic.” 🚫 “It’s not that big of a deal.” 🚫 “You can never take a joke.” 🚫 “You always take things the wrong way.” How do you respond? Being the nice person that you are, I bet you give them the benefit of … Continue reading »
Gaslighting

Rumination

Can you relate? 🙋🏻‍♀️ 💭 I can’t stop my thoughts. 💭 I’m always in my head. 💭 I’m constantly replaying conversations. 💭 I can’t shut off my brain. 💭 I overthink everything. Everyone feels from time to time that they are “obsessing” over a thought. There’s a difference between a healthy amount of thought to … Continue reading »
Rumination