Is It Trauma?

Trauma? Me? Nah… Trauma is not just for war, disasters, accidents, or a personal assault. Trauma is much more. You’ve experienced trauma if you have been a part of any extraordinarily stressful event that shattered your sense of security and your ability to cope. Trauma examples include: · Grief · Being betrayed · Toxic environments … Continue reading »
Is It Trauma?

Perhaps you need to hear this today…

It is OK to be scared, angry or sad, REGARDLESS OF if you believe someone has it worse. The phrase “someone has it worse than you,” typically results in: 1. invalidating people’s feelings. 2. implying you don’t feel grateful for what you do have. 3. feeling guilty and ashamed for suffering through what you’re going … Continue reading »
Perhaps you need to hear this today…

Am I Healing?

How do I know if I’m healing?   ❤️‍🩹 I am beginning to feel my emotions. ❤️‍🩹 I stop reacting less and start reflecting more. ❤️‍🩹 I reach out and ask for help from others. ❤️‍🩹 I’m able to speak up without worrying. ❤️‍🩹 I don’t automatically second guess myself or ruminate. ❤️‍🩹 I begin to understand my triggers, vulnerabilities, and … Continue reading »
Am I Healing?

I should have trusted my intuition…

Why didn’t I trust my intuition? You know… when something feels off? One of the big things I’ve been working through as of late, is why I ignored that gut feeling, why I doubted my intuition and chose to ignore the red flags. Yes, even therapists are far less than perfect. I’m in the business … Continue reading »
I should have trusted my intuition…

How Do You Talk To Someone With Depression?

What are the worst things to say to someone who is depressed? 🚫 You’re choosing this. 🚫 Things could always be worse. 🚫 Look at all the good things you have in your life. 🚫 You think you have it bad… 🚫 Everything will be ok. 🚫 You don’t look depressed. 🚫 Don’t think about … Continue reading »
How Do You Talk To Someone With Depression?

I’m no longer accepting verbal apologies, only changed behaviors.

Have you received an apology with an excuse? Did they apologize and want to pick up right where you left off? Did they apologize but blame you for feeling hurt about it? Or did you not receive an apology and were just expected to move on in the relationship/friendship with no acknowledgement or resolution around … Continue reading »
I’m no longer accepting verbal apologies, only changed behaviors.

Stop expecting YOU from people.

Do you fiercely love the people in your life, and it’s not equally given back? Do you give a lot of yourself and expect it in return? Does your heart seem bigger than everyone else’s? Are you supportive of friends, even though they don’t check on you? Are you not getting honesty from others? We … Continue reading »
Stop expecting YOU from people.

If I had to heal from you, I get to decide if I’m letting you back in my space.

Did someone who hurt you, reach out to you again? Do they want to reconcile? Do you have that one person who bounces in and out of your life and they want back in? Maybe it’s ex-love, a close friend, an acquaintance, or a family member who has reached out again. Have you put up … Continue reading »
If I had to heal from you, I get to decide if I’m letting you back in my space.

Just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.

Would people say you handle life with ease? Do you appear unfazed by setbacks or obstacles? Would the ones closest to you ever guess the pain you’re going through? You can carry yourself well through confidence, self-respect, good communication and treating yourself and others well. You can take care of yourself and your body AND … Continue reading »
Just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.

A woman is unstoppable once she realizes she deserves better.

“And when you get to where you’re going, turn around and help her too. For there was a time, not long ago when she was you.” An overwhelming feeling for many women is they are not enough. Feelings of inadequacy, inferiority and worthlessness are a common human experience. Comparing yourself to others in ways that … Continue reading »
A woman is unstoppable once she realizes she deserves better.